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The Importance of Affirmation – June 25

When our mouths are empty of praise for others, it is probably because our hearts are full of love for self.

God is not given the praise he deserves when we ignore or deny the work he is doing in people.

To fail to commend the character of Christ in people is to fall into the same lackluster indifference of a person who never exclaims what a beautiful morning it is, thereby robbing the Creator of glory he deserves for making that sky, that volcano, or that character.

Good affirmations are God-centered, pointing to the image of God in a person.

God is glorified in us when we affirm the work he has done and is doing in others.

We rob God of praise by not pointing out his reflection in the people he has knit together in his image.

Before being able to affirm people well, we need to learn to affirm God, the source of everything to be affirmed in people.

-Sam Crabtree


Posted by on June 25, 2012 in Daily Thoughts, June, Leadership


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Power in Words – May 12

Most people, myself included, do not take their words serious enough. People are continually affected by our words, whether for good or bad. Words and their effects cannot be cast out and drawn back like a fishing line. Once out of the mouth, they are permanent. It doesn’t really matter if they were intentional, or playful, or rashly spoken without thought; what matters is their influence and impact on others. Blessing and edification are accomplished  if the words are truthful and gracious; likewise, damage, hurt, and pain are found in harsh, disrespectful statements.

So how important are words? God reminds us in Proverbs:

  • “Whoever guards his mouth preserves his life; he who opens wide his lips comes to ruin.” – Prov. 13:3
  • “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” – 15:1
  • “The thoughts of the wicked are an abomination to the Lord, but gracious words are pure.” – 15:26
  • “Righteous lips are the delight of a king, and he loves him who speaks what is right.” – 16:13
  • “Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.” – 16:24
  • “A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion.” – 18:2
  • “A fool’s lips walk into a fight and his mouth invites a beating.” – 18:6
  • “A fool’s mouth is his ruin and his lips are a snare to his soul.” – 18:7
  • “If one gives an answer before he hears, it is his folly and shame.” – 18:13
  • “From the fruit of a man’s mouth his stomach is satisfied; he is satisfied by the yield of his lips.” – 18:20
  • “A worthless witness mocks at justice, and the mouth of the wicked devours iniquity.” – 19:28
  • “Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble.” – 21:23
  • “Argue your case with your neighbor himself and do not reveal another’s secrets.” – 25:9
  • “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver.” – 25:11
  • “A man who bears false witness against his neighbor is like a war club, a sword, or a sharp arrow.” – 25:18
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Posted by on May 12, 2012 in Daily Thoughts, Leadership, May


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Manhood – May 7

  • Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love. 1 Corinthians 16: 13-14

When does a boy become a man in white American culture? When he gets a driver’s license? When he moves away from his parents? When he can enlist in the military? When he gets his first full-time job? When he turns 21? When he gets married? When he owns his own home?

Who can say? There is no clear point of transition. There is no specific “rite of passage,” no exact moment when a boy becomes a man. Unfortunately, this leads to the insecurity found in many boys. They don’t know when they are men. Again and again they try to prove that they are “grown up.” Often, it means choosing a destructive path – living in a false reality(on a computer or gaming console), driving recklessly, learning to smoke, getting drunk, having sex, etc. Movies are filled with stories of men who refuse to grow up and refuse to take responsibility in relationships. Men, many obsessed with sex and unable to control their bodies, treat women as toys to be discarded when things get complicated. Through all the conflicting signals, boys must decipher what it means to be a man, and it is tough to figure out.

For boys to become men, they need to be guided through advice, habit, instruction, example and correction.  Each generation of men and women have an obligation to teach the young, to equip them for life’s struggles. They must be like Paul, who said, “Follow my example as I follow the example of Christ” (1 Cor. 11:1). Paul sets the bar high, as does Scripture on the whole. It’s not about perfection; part of being a God-honoring man is admitting failure and asking for forgiveness.

There can be no manhood without God. Wisdom comes from knowing God and submitting to His will. Teach a boy to abide in Christ and there He will flourish.

— Proverbs 1: 1-7

The proverbs of Solomon, son of David, king of Israel:

To know wisdom and instruction,
to understand words of insight,
to receive instruction in wise dealing,
in righteousness, justice, and equity;
to give prudence to the simple,
knowledge and discretion to the youth
Let the wise hear and increase in learning,
and the one who understands obtain guidance,
to understand a proverb and a saying,
the words of the wise and their riddles.

The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge;
fools despise wisdom and instruction.

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Posted by on May 7, 2012 in Daily Thoughts, Leadership, May


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